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Verbal Violence.

The objective of verbal coercion is to destroy your partner in three ways by: Trivializing her (making her less than she is), Thingifying her (making a thing out of her), Threatening her (this can be done to or around her).
Trivializing Your Partner
  • Belittling your partner, for example, “You're too stupid!"
  • Diminish your partner, “How would you know?"
  • Laughing, smirking, or joking
  • Mimicking or mocking your partner, for example, imitating her tone of voice when she is angry
  • Infantilizing your partner, for example, treating her as if
  • She was an infant
  • Repeating what you say to your partner (as if she were too stupid to understand you)
  • Patronizing
  • Edifying, for example, responding to her concerns by instructing you partner
  • Knowing it all
  • Last wording
  • “So” or “So what?”
  • Being sarcastic to your partner
  • Baffle gabbing, for example, talking in ways that are intended to mislead and baffle your partner
  • Eloquenting, example using high-flown words and phrases to be superior
  • Running on
  • Championing
  • Criticizing
  • Insulting
  • Ignoring
  • Being silent
  • Making sounds
  • Avoiding an issue
  • Sentence hanging or dropping off
  • Changing the subject
  • Lying
  • Cheating
 
Thingifying Your Partner (Making a Thing Out of Her)
  • Name-calling, for example, brat, b_tch, old lady, better half
  • Foodifying, for example, honey, sweetie pie
  • Fruitifying, for example, old prune, sweet cherry, pumpkin
 
Threatening Around Your Partner with Body Language
  • Facial expressions, such as grimacing, glaring, or rolling eyes
  • Tone of voice, for example, speaking with a commanding or a scathing tone of voice
  • Body stance, example, wagging a finger, getting up in her face, making a fist
  • lnvading her space by getting up close while talking
  • Sudden movements to startle and scare her
  • Profanity, swearing or cursing around or near your partner
  • Shouting and screaming around or near your partner
 
Threatening To Your Partner with Words
  • Whispering or muttering to you partner
  • Dismissing, for example, saying “That's stupid“, “F_ck you”
  • Profanity, swearing or cursing at your partner
  • Shouting and screaming at your partner
  • Threatening the pets
  • Threatening the children
  • Threatening to throw something
  • Threatening to hit something
  • Threatening to destroy something
  • Threatening to have an affair
  • Threatening to leave the relationship
  • Threatening to leave the marriage
  • Threatening to take away the children
  • Threatening to restrain your partner, for example, “I'll not let you go out.”
  • Threatening to restrict your partner's physical movements, for example, “I'll make you sit.”
  • Threatening to prohibit your partner's social contact, for example, “If I hear you talking to her again, the phone goes.”
  • Threatening to hit your partner
  • Threatening to throw your partner bodily
  • Threatening to maim your partner
  • Threatening your partner with a weapon (including cleaning it in front of her)
  • Threatening to kill your partner
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