Verbal Violence.
The objective of verbal coercion is to destroy your partner in three ways by: Trivializing her (making her less than she is), Thingifying her (making a thing out of her), Threatening her (this can be done to or around her).
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Trivializing Your Partner
Thingifying Your Partner (Making a Thing Out of Her)
Threatening Around Your Partner with Body Language
Threatening To Your Partner with Words
- Belittling your partner, for example, “You're too stupid!"
- Diminish your partner, “How would you know?"
- Laughing, smirking, or joking
- Mimicking or mocking your partner, for example, imitating her tone of voice when she is angry
- Infantilizing your partner, for example, treating her as if
- She was an infant
- Repeating what you say to your partner (as if she were too stupid to understand you)
- Patronizing
- Edifying, for example, responding to her concerns by instructing you partner
- Knowing it all
- Last wording
- “So” or “So what?”
- Being sarcastic to your partner
- Baffle gabbing, for example, talking in ways that are intended to mislead and baffle your partner
- Eloquenting, example using high-flown words and phrases to be superior
- Running on
- Championing
- Criticizing
- Insulting
- Ignoring
- Being silent
- Making sounds
- Avoiding an issue
- Sentence hanging or dropping off
- Changing the subject
- Lying
- Cheating
Thingifying Your Partner (Making a Thing Out of Her)
- Name-calling, for example, brat, b_tch, old lady, better half
- Foodifying, for example, honey, sweetie pie
- Fruitifying, for example, old prune, sweet cherry, pumpkin
Threatening Around Your Partner with Body Language
- Facial expressions, such as grimacing, glaring, or rolling eyes
- Tone of voice, for example, speaking with a commanding or a scathing tone of voice
- Body stance, example, wagging a finger, getting up in her face, making a fist
- lnvading her space by getting up close while talking
- Sudden movements to startle and scare her
- Profanity, swearing or cursing around or near your partner
- Shouting and screaming around or near your partner
Threatening To Your Partner with Words
- Whispering or muttering to you partner
- Dismissing, for example, saying “That's stupid“, “F_ck you”
- Profanity, swearing or cursing at your partner
- Shouting and screaming at your partner
- Threatening the pets
- Threatening the children
- Threatening to throw something
- Threatening to hit something
- Threatening to destroy something
- Threatening to have an affair
- Threatening to leave the relationship
- Threatening to leave the marriage
- Threatening to take away the children
- Threatening to restrain your partner, for example, “I'll not let you go out.”
- Threatening to restrict your partner's physical movements, for example, “I'll make you sit.”
- Threatening to prohibit your partner's social contact, for example, “If I hear you talking to her again, the phone goes.”
- Threatening to hit your partner
- Threatening to throw your partner bodily
- Threatening to maim your partner
- Threatening your partner with a weapon (including cleaning it in front of her)
- Threatening to kill your partner