Verbal Violence.

The objective of verbal coercion is to destroy your partner in three ways by: Trivializing her (making her less than she is), Thingifying her (making a thing out of her), Threatening her (this can be done to or around her).

Trivializing Your Partner

• Belittling your partner, for example, “You're too stupid!"
• Diminish your partner, “How would you know?"
• Laughing, smirking, or joking
• Mimicking or mocking your partner, for example, imitating her tone of voice when she is angry
• Infantilizing your partner, for example, treating her as if
• She was an infant
• Repeating what you say to your partner (as if she were too stupid to understand you)
• Patronizing
• Edifying, for example, responding to her concerns by instructing you partner
• Knowing it all
• Last wording
• “So” or “So what?”
• Being sarcastic to your partner
• Baffle gabbing, for example, talking in ways that are intended to mislead and baffle your partner
• Eloquenting, example using high-flown words and phrases to be superior
• Running on
• Championing
• Criticizing
• Insulting
• Ignoring
• Being silent
• Making sounds
• Avoiding an issue
• Sentence hanging or dropping off
• Changing the subject
• Lying
• Cheating

 
Thingifying Your Partner (Making a Thing Out of Her)

• Name-calling, for example, brat, b_tch, old lady, better half
• Foodifying, for example, honey, sweetie pie
• Fruitifying, for example, old prune, sweet cherry, pumpkin

 
Threatening Around Your Partner with Body Language

• Facial expressions, such as grimacing, glaring, or rolling eyes
• Tone of voice, for example, speaking with a commanding or a scathing tone of voice
• Body stance, example, wagging a finger, getting up in her face, making a fist
• lnvading her space by getting up close while talking
• Sudden movements to startle and scare her
• Profanity, swearing or cursing around or near your partner
• Shouting and screaming around or near your partner

 
Threatening To Your Partner with Words

• Whispering or muttering to you partner
• Dismissing, for example, saying “That's stupid“, “F_ck you”
• Profanity, swearing or cursing at your partner
• Shouting and screaming at your partner
• Threatening the pets
• Threatening the children
• Threatening to throw something
• Threatening to hit something
• Threatening to destroy something
• Threatening to have an affair
• Threatening to leave the relationship
• Threatening to leave the marriage
• Threatening to take away the children
• Threatening to restrain your partner, for example, “I'll not let you go out.”
• Threatening to restrict your partner's physical movements, for example, “I'll make you sit.”
• Threatening to prohibit your partner's social contact, for example, “If I hear you talking to her again, the phone goes.”
• Threatening to hit your partner
• Threatening to throw your partner bodily
• Threatening to maim your partner
• Threatening your partner with a weapon (including cleaning it in front of her)
• Threatening to kill your partner